Welcome to “Making Yourself Clear”, where we explore the art and science of clarity. We’ll discuss these things theoretically because it’s fun and interesting — but more importantly, you’ll get practical tools, mindsets, and frameworks to help you think and communicate clearly.
Going Deeper — In Conversations and Relationships
In a world of curated highlight reels and shallow small talk, real connection can feel like a lost art. In this episode, Chris and Patrick argue that deep, meaningful connection requires us to be a little messy, a little vuln...
How to Give Feedback (Without Making it Weird)
🎙️ Episode Summary In this episode of Making Yourself Clear, Chris and Patrick take on one of the most misunderstood and misused tools in communication: feedback. They begin by rejecting the outdated “compliment sandwich” and...
Apologies That Don't Suck
In this episode, Chris and Patrick dive deep into the art of genuine apologies. They explore why most apologies fail, the anatomy of a real apology, and how to avoid common pitfalls when apologizing. The hosts emphasize that effective apologies aren't about relieving your own guilt but about acknowledging harm, taking responsibility, and rebuilding trust. They discuss how proper apologies can strengthen relationships through the rupture-repair cycle and provide a practical five-step fra…
The Five Levels of Listening
In this episode, we explore the five levels of listening and how they impact communication, relationships, and personal growth.
The discussion covers the importance of deep listening, common barriers, and techniques to enhance listening skills.
Listeners will gain insights into how they can become more present and engaged in conversations, fostering deeper connections and understanding.
How to Keep Friends and Influence People
Chris and Patrick explore strategies for discussing heated topics with people you strongly disagree with. They emphasize the importance of understanding why you want to have such conversations, preparing for emotional triggers, and having a game plan. They recommend being intentional about your mindset — advocating dialogue over debate, perspectives rather than positions, and assuming positive intent. They explore techniques for effective listening, including tapping into genuine curiosity, …
Don't Agree to Disagree. Here's What to Do Instead.
Chris and Patrick discuss the pitfalls of the suggestion "let's agree to disagree" in arguments, highlighting that it often leaves one or more parties feeling unheard and frustrated. They emphasize the need for mutual understanding before reaching such a conclusion.
They argue that "agree to disagree" often signals the end of a conversation without actually resolving anything. They suggest alternatives like like pausing conversations, writing thoughts out, an…
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